I am a HUGE story teller! I love to tell my stories and add as much drama into them as humanely possible. If I could have an orchestra with me while I tell them, that would even be better! I am the best actress of every character in my stories, and even my voice changes octaves. Sometimes things will even go flying in my excitement! I have been told that I’m a very good story teller. Drama. If it’s in my life, I will bring it out in its living color for you to view free of charge.
I know that I have held on to my past pain and my past experiences. I know that I have re-played the drama, over and over in my head and for others, not wanting them to miss any of the action from my life. I’ve always figured “This is part of my past and who I am. And it makes for GREAT conversation.” But I’m recently examining how I tell my story.
Like every great drama, there must be a victim and a perpetrator. Of course, I’m always the victim as I never do anything wrong! Ha! My stories are about how I was hurt, and often at the end I will be willing to admit my role in the drama. But not until I have sufficiently painted the picture of what went wrong.
Sharing our stories is never wrong. We all have them and they are what have shaped us and taught us major life lessons. But how are we telling our stories? Are we addicted to our stories? Stuck in our stories? When we get stuck in our stories, in our past drama, can we truly heal? I listen to other people’s stories and I gotta tell you…a lot of us are stuck. Which then creates unhappiness that takes a really long time to escape from. How we tell our stories may engrain it and seal it even more into us.
All of our stories create us. But what are we using our stories for? Are we using them for others to relate to us, or are we using them as an excuse as to why certain things paralyze us? Are our stories creating more, or continued drama in our lives?
Our stories are wonderful. They are how we relate. Think about how you tell your story. Are you stuck in a chapter of your book that you just can’t seem to get past? Was your heart broken where you are still telling others of how badly it was hurt, why it was hurt, how they wronged you, etc.? Does your story still bring up intense emotions as you are telling it? Are you stuck in your story pining after someone that you thought loved you, and then left you, disabling you from opening up to the next person? The next person that could be the love of your life, but you are so shut down and focused on your past that you can’t give it a fair shot?
Are you stuck in the story of a friend or family member that did you wrong? I’ve been there! In fact I’ve been in many situations where I really have become stuck. To the point where it consumes me. It’s been a long time since that happened. Friends and family know that if something is bothering me, usually I come right out and let them know if they have hurt me.
Relationships? I’m not quite as good there. I do get caught up in the fantasy of what could have been. I tend to romanticize the relationship after. I mean, when is it easier? They can’t argue and of course I can throw out all the bad stuff and magnetize the good. And sometimes I get back into the relationship because I have created the past to be better than what it was. And of course, the problems we had come right back, and we are in another cycle of destruction.
The challenge now for all of us is to begin listening to how we tell our stories. Paying attention to the feelings that still come up, paying attention to the way our body physically reacts as we tell our story. You don’t even need to tell your story. Just think about it. And if it’s still causing intense reactions, you haven’t moved on. Which is perfectly ok! But that is when it’s time to decide if your story is creating who you are at this time in your life. And if your story is stopping you from achieving your highest potential.
Stories are powerful. That’s why they stick with us for so long. That’s why when a story comes up for me that I know will be hard for me just to forget, I go to my own therapist and energy worker to work through the details and work through the chance of getting stuck. Now I can tell my stories as something from my past. They are still entertaining and I still act them out. But the emotional block has been cut. Released. My story still belongs to me. But now I can tell it with laughter and learning instead of pain and hurting.
Emotional cord cutting is what it’s called in energy healing work. The thought is that when you are in any type of significant relationship and there is negative energy of any type, there is a cord of energy that connects you two. If you are still wanting to be in a relationship with the person you can cut the negative cord from that person to help establish a healthier relationship and get rid of the trash. If you are not connected to that person anymore, cutting the cord helps you to move forward, releasing the emotions from your body that are caused by the negative energy. You don’t have to believe in this for it to work. I was unsure of the process when brought up to me, but I knew I had to do something beyond what I’d already done. So, I tried it. And after the first story was released from me, I tried it again. And again. So yes, I believe there’s something to it.
There are many ways to release a story. Counseling is a great start! Reading books is as well and researching is another. But becoming aware of our attachment to the stories we tell is the greatest start to true healing. I encourage all to meet with either a counselor or an energy healer. Or someone who does both. If one hasn’t worked and you are stuck, why not give something new a try? What do you have to lose?
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Wishing you health and healing, in body, mind and spirit.